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Do women ejaculate or "squirt"?

The answer is yes, but it's not quite like what the internet or porn movies might lead you to believe.

Those online videos showcasing what they label as "female ejaculation" can create the impression that there's a mysterious gland or a water faucet inside the vagina, capable of squirting out a substantial amount of fluid with just the right touch.

The experience of female ejaculation is highly individualized. Some women may never encounter it, while others might experience it occasionally or regularly. The quantity and appearance of the fluid can also vary, ranging from a few drops to a more substantial amount.

It's really important to understand that female ejaculation is not a way to measure sexual pleasure or satisfaction. Each woman’s sexual experiences and responses are unique, and there's no singular "normal" or "correct" way to experience pleasure.

Now, let's delve into the nature and mechanism behind squirting.

Female ejaculation doesn't result from a magical spot in the vagina. For a woman to ejaculate, the fluid must come from the vagina, the urethra, or a specialized gland known as Skene's glands, also referred to as the female prostate. 

These glands are located near the urethra and can produce a small amount of fluid, perhaps 1-2 ml at most, during sexual activity. Medically speaking, this could be called ejaculate, but it won't shoot any distance or have a large volume.

Just so known, men release around 5 ml of fluid from their prostate when they ejaculate. However, there's no gland down there in the vulva or vagina as large as the male prostate. Meaning, the idea that women can squirt out more than 5 ml of fluid from these glands seems rather doubtful.

In a study with women who experience squirting, their bladders were emptied and ultrasound measurements were taken during sexual stimulation leading to orgasm. The results showed that their empty bladders filled quickly during stimulation and were empty after squirting. Lab analysis confirmed that the fluid was urine.

But here's the thing: in my yoni massage sessions, I've seen hundreds of women squirt. And most of the time, the smell or taste of urine is hardly noticeable or not there at all (actually, a man's cum has a stronger taste and smell:)  So if you feel any pressure down there during stimulation, don't hold back. Just let it go and go with the flow...

Why does this whole squirting thing happen?

There are a few possible explanations for this phenomenon. One possibility is that when women report squirting, they might be experiencing an orgasm intense enough to trigger the pelvic floor muscles to empty the bladder. This connection with heightened pleasure could explain why squirting is often perceived as a desirable experience. Another possibility is that a more intense sexual response could lead to a faster filling of the bladder.

It's also conceivable that some women produce a significant amount of transudate—meaning they get very wet—during sex. When they orgasm, this fluid might come out all at once, creating the sensation of squirting.

Squirting is not always linked to experiencing an orgasm or extra pleasure. For some women, it's not even a pleasurable experience; it's more like a barrier to enjoyment. They might feel a bit shy or uncomfortable about letting the water flow, which can lead to uncomfortable feeling, stress and sometimes pain during penetration.

We need to know where female ejaculation comes from because some women might feel like they're inadequate if they can't squirt. And seriously, there are already way too many sex myths making it seem like a woman's pleasure is all about meeting some men's standards.

A good sexual experience isn't about looking good for the guy (it's usually a guy in these situations) and making him feel like he has achieved something.

It's about pleasure, plain and simple. If you're having a couple of good orgasms, who cares about anything else?


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