Before we start dispelling some myths, which will hopefully help you feel more normal and relaxed, let’s become familiar with the clitoris and the G-spot.
The Clitoris
The clit is the only part in the human body dedicated solely to one purpose: PLEASURE!
And YES, it definitely knows how to deliver:)
Picture the clit as a flipped “Y”.
The top of the clitoris (clit’s glans) is the little bump above the urethra where the inner labia meet. It’s made up of spongy erectile tissue and when it gets some attention and love, it fills with blood, swells up, and the glans peeks out from under its hood. Yes, the clit has its own version of an erection!
You can gently nudge that hood toward your belly for added exposure of this magic part and it’s not one size or shape – everyone’s unique
But wait, we’re just getting started!
The glans is the part we usually imagine when we talk about the clitoris. It’s the only part you can see outside, and it’s super sensitive because it has 8,000 nerve endings.
What appears beneath the hood is only a small part of the story. Most of the clitoris is situated beneath the skin and extends into the body.
The clitoral glans is connected to the clitoral body. It goes up into your pelvis and connects to your pubic bone with ligaments. From the body, it splits into two parts, like the “legs” called crura, and vestibular bulbs.
I like to imagine the clitoris has two hidden arms hugging the vagina from the inside.
The crura are like the legs of the clitoris, extending from its body. They are the longest part of the clitoris, inside the body, and are made of erectile tissue. The crura wrap around the vaginal canal and the urethra.
The vestibular bulbs are located between the crura and the vaginal wall. Just like the crura, these bulbs are made of erectile tissue and are completely inside the body. They also come in contact with the vaginal wall and urethra.
All components of the clitoris contribute to creating sexual sensations, and they all engorge, meaning they fill with blood and become swollen.
Now that we’re familiar with this marvelous part in our body, designed solely for pleasure, and we’ve learned that it’s much wider than we initially thought, with many areas around the hood and vagina capable of producing sexual pleasure, let’s go back to the beginning and discover
what’s the deal with vaginal orgasms and the G-spot?
Sigmund Freud did significant damage by spreading the idea of the vaginal orgasm. And, of course, the entire world of porn and Hollywood’s sex scene continues to reinforce that myth. In reality, Only a small percentage of women are able to achieve orgasm with penile penetration alone (meaning hands-off, penile thrusting only), so the idea that everyone should be having orgasms this way results in many women believing there is something wrong with their sexual wiring when really they are perfect.
Not climaxing just from penetration isn’t a problem—it’s just the way things are. Further supporting this vaginal orgasm myth is the idea of the G-spot, supposedly identified by Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg in 1950. In today’s stories, it’s like this magical spot on the vaginal wall, right under the bladder, that when touched will drive a woman “wild.” But really, it’s not as straightforward as all that.
Again, many women feel frustrated when they don’t have a G-spot. Digging through the data, you find that Dr. Gräfenberg’s original paper did not describe a special spot. His work actually described an “erotic zone” in the front of the vagina that was intimate with the urethra and lower portion of the bladder.
Yes, he was likely describing the body, root, and bulbs of the clitoris as they envelop the urethra. As expected, multiple studies have found no macroscopic structure other than the urethra, the clitoris, and vaginal wall in the location of the so-called G-spot. The lower part of the vagina, close to the urethra, will feel great for many women because stimulation here is accessing the internal clitoris, but it takes the right stimulation—it is not an on/off switch.
It is not surprising to me when I see so many women who fake orgasms with their male partners. After all, they have been led to believe that a female orgasm should be reached with a penis by way of an imaginary spot.
MRI studies looking at anatomy during heterosexual sex reveal that the clitoris can be compressed by the penis, which is why some women can orgasm with penile penetration.
Ultrasound studies looking at clitoral swelling during external masturbation and during vaginal penetration indicate that both cause clitoral engorgement. This means that touching externally on your vulva or vestibule or internally with a penis, fingers, tongue, or toys are all producing the same end result—clitoral stimulation.
Even nipple stimulation, which many women find erotic, triggers an area in the brain that overlaps with—yes, you guessed it—the area that interprets sensations from the clitoris. The clitoris is the pleasure aggregator and amplifier.
Basically, all pleasure roads lead to the clitoris. It is best to eliminate terms such as:
vaginal orgasm and G-spot, as they are incorrect. The goal is female orgasm, and it can be achieved in so many ways.
