Before we start dispelling some myths, which will hopefully help you feel more normal and relaxed, let’s become familiar with the clitoris and the G-spot.
The Clitoris
The clit is the only part in the human body dedicated solely to one purpose: PLEASURE!
And YES, it definitely knows how to deliver:)
Picture the clit as a flipped “Y”.
The top of the clitoris (clit’s glans) is the little bump above the urethra where the inner lips meet. It’s made up of spongy erectile tissue and when it gets some attention and love, it fills with blood, swells up, and the glans peeks out from under its hood. Yes, the clit has its own version of an erection!
But wait, we’re just getting started!
the glans is just the tip of the iceberg. It’s the most known part as it the only part you can see outside, and it’s super sensitive because it has 8,000 nerve endings. BUT, most of the clitoris is situated beneath the skin and extends into the body.
clitoral body.
The body of your clitoris, is behind your glans. This forms the single part of the Y. from here the body extends downward and branches off to the two legs called the crura of the clit.
The crura,
or the legs, are the longest part of the clitoris, inside the body, and are made of erectile tissue. I like to imagine the clitoris has two hidden arms hugging the vagina from the inside.
The vestibular bulbs
are located between the legs (crura) and the vaginal wall. Just like the crura, these bulbs are made of erectile tissue and are completely inside the body.
All parts of the clitoris work together to create sexual sensations, and they all engorge, meaning they fill with blood and become swollen during arousal..
Now that we know this incredible part of our body, made only for pleasure, and understand it's more expansive than we first believed—with areas around the hood and vagina sparking joy—let's return to the beginning.
So, what’s the real story with the G-spot? Simple. It’s a story. Just a story. It isn’t real.
As a yoni massage therapist, I’ve had countless women ask me about it. They search for that one magic button inside their vagina, hoping it will unlock unbelievable pleasure. I’m writing this because I want you to understand: the G-spot is a myth. If you haven’t found it, touched it, pressed it—and felt that WOW!—it’s not because you’re doing something wrong. It’s because the whole thing has been blown out of proportion.
It all started with Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg in 1950, when he introduced the idea of a "special" spot inside the vagina. Fast forward to 1982, when researchers popularized the term "G-spot," and suddenly, it was everywhere.
Sex columns, magazines, movies, and yes, even sex-toy companies were pushing it like it was some kind of mystical key to ultimate ecstasy. We were led to believe that every woman had this secret “on” switch buried deep inside, and if you didn’t find yours? Well, you must be doing something wrong, right?
Sigmund Freud also fueled the confusion by promoting the concept of vaginal orgasms. And of course, the entire world of porn and Hollywood’s sex scenes keep reinforcing this fantasy—suggesting that every woman should orgasm from penetration alone.
The truth is, after decades of research, there’s still no proof that the G-spot is a distinct part of our anatomy. Sure, some women have sensitive areas inside the vagina that feel good when stimulated, but the idea that there’s one magical spot for everyone? That’s just not true.
Even Dr. Gräfenberg's original paper didn’t actually describe a specific "spot" but an “erotic zone” near the front of the vaginal wall, likely referring to parts of the clitoris around the urethra. Studies show that in the so-called G-spot area, there's just the urethra, clitoris, and vaginal wall. For some women, this area feels great because it stimulates the internal clitoris, but it’s not a simple on/off switch—it depends on the right touch.
I’ve met so many women in my practice who feel pressured to orgasm through penetration alone, as if that’s the “right” way to orgasm. well, It’s not. This absurd idea of the G-spot and vaginal orgasm has led so many women to feel like they’re missing out on something that everyone else seems to have. Many also believe there’s something wrong with their sexual responses when, in reality, they’re perfectly normal.
It’s no surprise that so many women end up faking orgasms with their male partners. After all, they’ve been told that female orgasms should be reached with a penis, via an imaginary spot.
In reality, most women experience orgasm through clitoral stimulation, not from vaginal penetration alone. It’s so common that I often wonder why we’re not talking more about it.
All roads lead to the clitoris. Touching externally on your vulva or internally with a penis, fingers, tongue, or toys, all produce the same result—clitoral stimulation.
So, please, forget about the G-spot. Let go of trying to fit into this outdated vaginal orgasm narrative, and focus on what you feel in the moment and what truly works for you. There is only one orgasm, but many ways to get there. So relax, take a deep breath, and start figuring out your own path to pleasure.
